Challenges of Love...

March 24, 2008
12:05 am


It becomes easier to forgive if we prepare for it. That is, expect to encounter a bumpy road. Disagreements and disappointments are bound to occur. You see, early in our courtship we are blinded by the flames of passion and fail to see any of the imperfections of our partner. But, once we settle down and grow comfortable, we make the shocking discovery that our partner has faults. The only reason it is shocking is that we had false expectations and assumptions.

At times, even if we are big enough to forgive a terrible betrayal, our only choice will be to end the relationship. An obvious example would be of a husband sexually abusing his children. For the good of the children, society, wife, and even husband, he must be reported to the police. Yet, some women who are victims of physical or verbal abuse refuse to end the relationship because, they say, they "love" their husband. But, that is not love. Love is about respect and admiration for one's partner. How can one respect and admire anyone who abuses another? Women remain in abusive relationships, not because of love, but because of desperation. They bvelieve they are unworthy of something better, are trapped, or cannot make it on their own. They need to seek help from the community.